Dear Girl in her mid-twenties that just had a holiday break-up after a 2 or more year relationship,
(Boy is that specific)
First I would like to say, you are amazing and beautiful. We all have flaws (even your ex, whether they acknowledge them or not) and I truly believe there is someone out there that will accept them and cherish you despite them.
Ok now that the affirmations are out of the way, let's get to what’s going on with you.
You are no longer in a relationship and that is a daunting feeling. You probably suffered grieving the relationship before it was even over. One minute you want to cry, the next you are angry and feel like you wasted your twenties on this individual.
This is the season for holiday engagements and you are bummed out. All of your friends and associates around your age are starting families and you feel like there is something wrong with you. Your biological clock is ticking very fast and loud. You feel the need to meet someone pronto so you can get this show on the road.
*Sets up tinder profile* you meet one person and they are straight trash in your book because you are simply not ready and open. (Or they literally are trash) You will message a couple others and get nowhere. Then you match with the ONE. I mean you are planning the wedding and counting your children together because the conversation has the right amount of intellectual substance with a bit of humor and flirting. You have made the step to exchange numbers and then POOF! They ghost you.
Don’t freak out it happens to the best of us. At this point you feel helpless but fear not because there is someone in store for you that has not revealed themselves just yet. You may know them or they are a stranger for now. Be patient and figure out what you want and need in a relationship moving forward. Be open, yes the process of getting to know someone is exhausting but when it’s someone you are truly interested in, it can be quite exciting. Don’t become the bitter chick that hates love this New Year. There is too much to be thankful for and your twenties are a decade for fun and progress. In the immortal words of Dory “Just keep swimming” because there are plenty of fish in the sea.
Been There Experienced That.